“Hey, How are you??” What will you reply to this innocent question? Your answer will be, I am Fine! or simply, I’m ok! or will you really come out with the real actual answer.
We always give the same reply “I’m Fine” because I think it’s a heavy question with a rote answer. The reply is actually a lie. If you ask me the same question “How are you?” my reply will be “Fine“. Even on the days I am not Fine. On the days when the pain is unbearable. On days when I ask questions like “what if”. On days I am not feeling good enough.
Sometimes when someone who is close to you asks the same question, you try not to respond in the usual fashion, but something inside you holds it back. In actual, we hide our current feelings with words which sounds as if we are the most happiest person. And I also feel like its hard to open up when you are uncomfortable with something which is not letting the actual feelings to flow.
There are two strong reason why we give the default response to the question.
One reason is because fine has become the quick generic response to the question, “How are you today?” But how are you really doing? Are you truly “all right” as the definition of fine implies?
It has become a tag line for our lives “I’m fine”. For most people, when someone asks them how they are, they don’t give it much thought and simply reply with the fastest, easiest answer. This is what they are also doing in their lives as well.
The other reason we may be using those words is to hide how we are truly feeling. When we say, “I’m fine” we may not want to burden the other person or we may just not want to deal with the feelings ourselves.
If you are not wanting to deal with your own emotions, it’s time to stop being a victim. It’s time to stop hiding in the sand. The sooner you step into what you are truly feeling, the faster you can step out of those feelings! I know its not a easy thing to do.
It’s time to shake it up! Stop saying you are fine, now come up with what you’re really feeling.